Why she?
if tomorrow starts without me...

The other woman in my life

After 21 years of marriage, I discovered a new  way of keeping alive the spark of love. A little while  ago I had started to go out with another woman. It was really my wife's idea.

"I know that you love her," she said one day,  taking me by surprise. "But I love YOU," I protested.

"I know, but you also love her."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit  was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years,  but the demands of my work and my three children had  made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That  night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a  movie.

"What's wrong, are you well?" she asked. My  mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night  call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to pass  some time with you," I responded. " Just the two of  us."

She thought about it for a moment then said "I  would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick  her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house,  I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous   about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on.

She had curled her hair and was wearing the  dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out  with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she  got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting". We went to a restaurant that, although  not elegant, was very nice and cozy. my mother took  my arm as if she were the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu to  her. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way   through the entree, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting  there staring at me.

A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I  who used to have to read the menu when you were small,"  she said.

"Then it's time for you to relax and let me  return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner we had an agreeable  conversation, nothing extraordinary - but catching up on   recent events of each others lives. We talked so much  that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said   "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me   invite you". I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when  I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later my mother died of a massive  heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't  have a chance to do anything for her.

Some time later I received an envelope with a  copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother  and I had dined.

An attached note said: "I paid this bill in  advance. I was almost sure that I couldn't be there but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for  you and the other for your  wife. You will never know what that night meant  to me. I love you."

At that moment I understood the importance of  saying, in time: "I LOVE YOU" and giving our loved ones  the time that they deserve.

Nothing in life is more important than God and  your family and friends.
Give them the time they deserve, because these  things cannot be put off 'til "some other time".

Someone once said "I've learned that,  regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss  them when they're gone from your life.

I think this is true with your in-laws, grandchildren, sisters, brothers and your   friends. Anyone that means something to you-you should  spend time with them and let them know how much they  mean to you as often as you can.